Long Distance Relationship

Wine Lady - about wine with passion

Long distance relationship in today’s world is a part of everyday life of millions of people all over the world. Modern technology has changed the perception of long-distance love and the tyranny of physical distance between two people can be helped by video conversations, text messages, e-mail, or phone calls. The distance still hurts, but it is easier to cope with the absence of beloved person on a day to day basis.

Although modern technology allows to lessen the pain, there’s still a question of how much we are aware that (regardless of whether we want to admit it to ourselves or not) living with someone in a long-distance relationship is based mostly on our own imagination – it’s a kind of ideal world where the other person is the best, the most beautiful, but … he or she is still unreal and available only with the ring of an incoming text message or phone call; it is a life of a continuous expectation. I think that many of us have experienced this ‘waiting—life’.

How does this apply to the relationships with our dreams about wine?

How does this apply to the representation of famous wineries we’d like to visit? Or to the particular bottle of wine that we are in a long-distance relationship with and which we adore so passionately? Do we want to visit the particular place because we think that it is the greatest chateau in the world or do we just want to have a nice new picture on facebook? Do we really want to try this particular wine for thousands of dollars for its taste, or do we just want to try something that is unobtainable in our everyday life?


Wine Lady - about wine with passion; Chateau d'Yquem
my long-distance-relationship with d’Yquem has finished recently :))

Recently I’ve been wondering about how much does our idealized image of a particular wine (usually very expensive one) have in common with the real taste of the liquid in the bottle? So many people are convinced that Rothschild, Latour or Moet-Chandon is the best, or the very old wines are the best, that they forget to enjoy the wines they already have in their own wine cellars. These people don’t realize they mistake the real taste of these wines with their imagination.

Don’t get me wrong – I think it’s amazing to dream, to reach higher and higher, to up the level of the quality or price of wine you taste, if this is what you want. What I’m writing about is the beauty of the imagination that destroys the beauty of the reality – this moment, when you get the bottle you wanted so much, open it and taste the wine; the moment in which you confront your past imagination of the wine with current impressions of it; when you ‘open your eyes’ and look at the wine to judge it instead of enjoying the moment you’ve been waiting for so long.

Sometimes the confrontation is much better than our imagination and sometimes it is not; more often, as I observe myself and my friends and talk to others, there is disappointment, an unpleasant surprise that destroys our dreams and makes us feel empty, almost painful…

It reminds me of myself waiting the whole day for my evening video-call and having troubles with the internet connection a couple of minutes before the call; you know what I’m talking about, don’t you?

How often you feel upset because the bottle of wine, which is worth more than your car, doesn’t taste as good as you imagined? Does this disappointment have a huge impact of your total impressions of the wine? Will you still remember your beautiful dreams, or will you focus only on the taste of the wine you haven’t enjoyed as much as you wanted to?

This is what makes me wonder… will you (will we!?) still remember the dreams we had before tasting the wine? Will we be able to cut off the imagination and enjoy the wine as it is? Because we have to remember that this particular wine was like that before, it is now the way it is, and it will be exactly the same in a few years. The wine is not a problem – what I find problematic is our way of thinking, our ability to see the things the way they are, even if we have our own imaginations about them. How easy or how difficult it is for us to accept the reality as it is?

I know I can ask these questions over and over again and probably never get the only one correct answer. As I said, I’m just wondering… ;)

Wine Lady harvest 2015 - picking grapes in Bordeaux
I used to think grapes picking is fun but it was even better experience!! :)

I love to create in my head an image of a bottle I dream about, I love to imagine how it would taste and how it might impress me when I’d get it to taste one day. It is nothing bad to have dreams, to have positive emotions about something and to desire something we can’t have at the moment. It is a beautiful feeling that motivates and pushes us towards our dreams. There’s nothing bad in cutting the picture of the wine bottle out of the wine magazine and stick it to your wine-dream-board. There’s nothing bad in creating a vision of ourselves having the bottle of our dreams, which makes us feel better.

On the other hand there’s nothing bad in tasting a wine without having any expectations or imaginations. You are allowed to change your vision about the wine person you wanted to meet, wine bottle you wanted to have or wine region you wanted to visit.

There’s nothing bad in having a different opinion about a bottle of wine everybody loves but we didn’t enjoy, or didn’t like the wine region. Are we an odd person? Or are you a special one, having our own opinion and knowing our own taste? It’s up to you how you will feel about it.

What I think is important, is to remember both the feelings – the beauty of the imagination and the beauty of the moment in which we tasted the wine. And to remember that no matter what, it was our dream, our beautiful dream.

And when our emotions cool down with this particular wine, we change the object of our excitement and put the new bottle of wine on our desktop or on facebook, someone else will find our previous picture and the new long-distance relationship with this wine will begin. A journey full of expectations, imaginations and hope…
And how is it with you? What bottles are you dreaming of? Who from the world of wine would you like to get to know personally? Have you ever experienced the long distance relationship with a bottle of wine? I’d love to hear from you!

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